What if it were your child …

It is easy to become desensitized to numbers and to the accompanying suffering and struggles of people around us and to people in other parts of the world.

As a Canadian, I know I have.

I am writing this a few days before Christmas, my family is gathering, gifts and food have been bought, and we are not alone in these preparations. Like many Canadians, I am although I may appreciate and have awareness of what is happening to other people, they are an abstraction, my reality I literally have blinders on, and we are blind to the reality our lives are not representative of the majority of people on our planet.

Yet, as I write this and as you read my words, life is happening for other people; and it is not the life we have.

In these five minutes, fifteen children will die from diarrheal diseases, die from malaria, and respiratory infections (1) around the world. From January to April of 2023 more than 400 migrants (2) drowned in the Mediterranean trying to find a better life in Europe and more than 20,000 have drowned trying to accomplish the same goal since 2014. According to the United Nations Human Rights Council, there are more than 114 million people(3) who have been displaced by war or violence right now.

The numbers are staggering, but they are just the figurative “tip of the iceberg.”  How can we possibly relate? We have issues here, one in four people will have a mental health experience in the coming year, and one in seven experience food insecurity, housing and homelessness are major issues; these are real issues. However, when we consider global issues, it helps to remember that behind each number is a real person.

My challenge to you is to imagine the following realities. Instead of looking at the numbers, consider what you might do and how you would react … if it was your child or family.

Scenario 2 – A dozen or so years ago there was a future. After forty years of occupation, war, corruption, warlords, drugs, and death there was hope. The western countries, including Canada, were maintaining and supporting the Afghanistan government. It wasn’t perfect, but your daughter was able to go to school and personal freedoms were increasing. Occupations like teaching, being an engineer; and opportunities taken for granted in other parts of the world were new and exciting, as a parent you could believe your daughter had a whole new world open to her.

 Then, with the stroke of a pen, the United States decided to leave and the dominos fell as other countries couldn’t pull their soldiers out fast enough. Troops left faster than they had arrived, you knew people who literally chased airplanes down the runway in hopes of escaping from what they knew would be coming. Those people who helped the Western powers were hunted, imprisoned, and punished by the returning Taliban. Girls like your daughter, who had glimpsed a future, had it torn away, as a new harsh regime replaced personal freedoms with a level of oppression hard for Canadians to understand. Rights and freedoms taken for granted by us, simply do not exist, particularly for women.

What would you do? Would you try to escape? Would you risk everything so your children could have a future?

Scenario 4 – You have heard the stories. Americans were building a wall between them and Mexico to stop migrants. You had heard rumors of children being separated from their parents and put into cages … that couldn’t be true. How could that be? Wasn’t America built by immigrants? Didn’t the Statue of Liberty say something about welcoming the huddled masses? It must be wrong. Wasn’t America about justice and freedom?

Besides, you couldn’t stay where they were. So, you came on foot.

At times walking forever it seemed. You and your family, sometimes strangers treated you well, other times not so much. You were alone, you saw other people, other families, everyone walking. All were poor, some were prosecuted, some were taken advantage of some simply disappeared, human smugglers offered better access and promises of security, some people could afford, we could not.

At the border it was true. A few got in, more were smuggled in, and some squatted there, in limbo or purgatory. America was not as it seemed, it seemed like a lie, and it fostered hate and resentment. How could some have so much and you have so little?

What would you do? How far would you go to find sanctuary for your family, for your children?

Scenario 6 – You are a middle-aged Canadian. Tonight, you are watching and agreeing with the populist conservative politician who wants to cut immigration. They are blaming immigrants for everything from our housing crisis to taking good jobs away from Canadians. They say if we let too many people into the country it will jeopardize our social safety net and strain our already overtaxed health system. You and most people who think like you have opinions that border on racism, but you don’t see yourself that way. You justify your thinking because you believe we can’t afford to support immigrants, that others around the world should deal with their “own” problems, and you listen to the rhetoric of politicians who say the right things and know how to push your buttons.

Your children are safe. They never think about having clean water or sanitation. They have education opportunities, to vote, to have careers, to enjoy life, medical care, inoculations …

We could continue to live in our reality, as unconnected as it is. We could continue to support politicians who want to limit immigration or we could consider taking individual and collective action. We need to look at what is happening, asking what if the people suffering were our children … what would we want? What can we do to help those in need?

We could start by learning about what is really happening in the world. We should stop relying on 5 and 10-second sound bites to get our information. We should ask difficult questions of our leaders and the choices they make on our behalf. We should be prepared to pay for helping the vulnerable people in our world. What would we want if it was us asking them?

With immigration, we should take as many as we can; do we have room? For those who argue Canadians’ jobs, for Canadian lifestyles would be jeopardized; put yourself in the shoes of any of the people in the first four scenarios, what do you think.

For those who still refuse to change, my question is “By what right do you have to say no?” Would you be the person in a lifeboat who refuses to pick up any more people because you are safe and more people would put you at risk? We have enough room. Open your eyes and see the inequity, the people who need our help, and help us take responsibility for those who just want a better life.

Paul.

Source:  (1) Causes of Death – Our World in Data

Source:  (2) Over 400 migrants died crossing the Mediterranean early in 2023 -UN agency | Reuters

Source:  (3) Over 114 million displaced by war, violence worldwide | UN News