Category: Social Responsibility

Nobody Tells You This Stuff – The Things That Matter Most Aren’t Always the Things We Chase.

Paul Wagenaar

Some of life’s most important lessons aren’t taught in classrooms or found in leadership books.

They’re learned through mistakes, missed opportunities, difficult conversations, and the people who change how we see the world.

Looking back, I’ve realized that success isn’t simply about what we achieve. It’s about who we become along the way and the difference we make in other people’s lives.

Here are some lessons I wish I’d understood sooner. Perhaps a few will resonate with you.

It’s Not About Agreeing. It’s About Deciding for Yourself.

Paul Wagenaar

We spend a lot of our lives being told what we should do.

Parents, teachers, friends, partners, bosses, mentors, advisors, their experience and opinions can be valuable. But listening isn’t the same as surrendering our decision.
Sometimes the most important question isn’t “What should I do?” but “What am I actually deciding?”

Pause. Question. Reframe. Consider the consequences. Then decide.

Not because nobody else has anything valuable to say, but because their voice shouldn’t replace yours.

Lost in Our Own Biases

Paul Wagenaar

Sometimes the problem isn’t what someone said.

It’s the story we told ourselves about what they meant.

Before we judge the person in front of us, perhaps we should turn the lens around, and question what our own assumptions are telling us.

Choosing a Different Way

Paul Wagenaar

We move at the speed of trust.

I may be one of the few career advisors who regularly encourage job seekers to break the rules.

Not because I don’t understand them.

Because sometimes what we call conventional wisdom is simply something we’ve repeated so often that we stopped questioning it.

I tell people to stand out: Contact employers before jobs are posted. Build relationships. Challenge assumptions. Stop making their résumé look like everyone else’s.

But there’s a catch: You can’t ask someone to take an unconventional path without first giving them a reason to trust you.

Resistance isn’t always stubbornness. Sometimes it’s fear, self-protection, or the weight of years of rejection and being told what they should do.

My job isn’t to convince people that I’m right.
It’s to help them become confident enough to question advice, including mine.

Because the goal isn’t to create followers. It’s to help people trust themselves enough to find their own way forward.

And that’s why: We move at the speed of trust.

Before I got up off the ice

Paul Wagenaar

I was lying on the ice, staring up at the lights, knowing I didn’t belong.
Everyone else was faster. Better. More natural.

I had no business being out there, and I knew it. In that moment, I made a decision: I was done.

I started to pull myself up, already planning how I’d leave, what I’d say, how I’d explain that this just wasn’t for me.

And then someone skated over.

Rethinking Job Descriptions: Who Are You Really Excluding?

Paul Wagenaar

A job description is more than a list of tasks. It is the foundation of how we hire, onboard, evaluate, and include people.

When it is unclear, inflated, or shaped by assumption, it quietly filters out capable candidates before they ever apply. Not through obvious exclusion, but through language that narrows access in ways most organizations never examine.

When it is clear, structured, and intentional, it does the opposite. It expands access, improves hiring decisions, and helps more people understand where they might fit and contribute.

This is not just a question of wording.

It is a question of design, and of who gets seen in the first place.

Conferences and Trade Shows – The Lie We Tell Ourselves

Paul Wagenaar

Most people don’t go to conferences to change anything.

They go to feel like they are.

They take notes. They nod. They leave inspired. Then nothing changes.

A smaller group does something else. They pick one idea and act, when it’s inconvenient, messy, and unpopular.

That’s the edge.

It’s not access to ideas. It’s the courage to use them.

The difference isn’t what you learned. It’s what you chose to do with it.

How the flow of ideas slowly freezes … and starts to feel normal.

Paul Wagenaar

Rigidity doesn’t usually announce itself.

It shows up as discipline. As process. As “the way we’ve always done it.”

But underneath, it’s often something else entirely: fear disguised as control.
And the longer we hold onto it, the more it quietly limits what we, and the organizations we are part of, are capable of becoming.

Stop Treating Everyone the Same – Accommodations aren’t the problem … our assumptions are

Paul Wagenaar

This is a longer read than usual, but it’s written that way intentionally.

Because the way we think about accommodations, fairness, and performance in the workplace is often oversimplified, and those oversimplifications shape how people are supported, evaluated, and sometimes misunderstood.

If you’ve ever questioned whether “treating everyone the same” is actually fair in practice, this is worth your time.

Shine a Light on the Darkness: Seeing Through Misinformation and Media Noise

Paul Wagenaar

Most of what we see isn’t designed to inform us, it’s designed to move us.

Not toward truth, but toward reaction.

The real skill isn’t knowing everything, it’s knowing when to pause, question, and look a little closer before deciding what’s real.