Category: Parenting

The Courage to Begin Again, and the Art of Finishing What We Start

Paul Wagenaar

What happens when something you once found easy suddenly feels impossibly difficult?

When the goal still matters, but the road to getting there is frustrating, tedious, and sometimes downright discouraging?

Inspired by Roald Amundsen’s 20-Mile March, this is a reflection on perseverance, the burden of past success, and finding a way forward when motivation isn’t enough.
Sometimes the secret to reaching a difficult goal isn’t doing something extraordinary. It’s finding a way to keep doing the ordinary, even when you’d rather be doing almost anything else.

Different Doesn’t Mean Wrong

Paul Wagenaar

I’ve hesitated to write about resumes for a long time.

Not because I don’t have opinions, but because my opinions challenge almost everything we’ve traditionally been taught.

Were told to fit our lives into rigid templates, keep it to one page, and strictly follow chronological order.

But what if your path wasnt perfectly linear? Your resume shouldnt just be a passive record of where youve been.

It should be a precision tool, carefully tailored to show an employer how your skills, strengths and experience can address their needs and solve their problems.

But heres something we often overlook. Before your resume can help an employer recognize your value, sometimes it needs to help you recognize that value yourself. The goal isnt to become the person you think an employer wants.

Its to understand what that employer needs and demonstrate, with confidence and evidence, how the person you already are can make a meaningful contribution.

It’s Not About Agreeing. It’s About Deciding for Yourself.

Paul Wagenaar

We spend a lot of our lives being told what we should do.

Parents, teachers, friends, partners, bosses, mentors, advisors, their experience and opinions can be valuable. But listening isn’t the same as surrendering our decision.
Sometimes the most important question isn’t “What should I do?” but “What am I actually deciding?”

Pause. Question. Reframe. Consider the consequences. Then decide.

Not because nobody else has anything valuable to say, but because their voice shouldn’t replace yours.

Lost in Our Own Biases

Paul Wagenaar

Sometimes the problem isn’t what someone said.

It’s the story we told ourselves about what they meant.

Before we judge the person in front of us, perhaps we should turn the lens around, and question what our own assumptions are telling us.

“Look at My Feet While I’m Talking to You”:

Paul Wagenaar

“Look at my feet while I’m talking to you.”
That sounds wrong. Disrespectful, even. It goes against what most of us have been taught about attention, engagement, and respect.
But what if it’s not wrong?
What if it’s not a correction of the person, but of the standard we’re using to judge them?
Most of the conflict we experience with people living with autism isn’t about effort.
It’s about misinterpretation.
We don’t just see behavior, we assign meaning to it.
And too often, we’re wrong.

Atypical – Just Another Word for Discrimination?

Paul Wagenaar

Point of view … perspective … life experience … and what we learn each day. The more I learn about other people, their challenges, and their resilience, the more I am determined to help illuminate what many of us do not see. Please take a few minutes to read this post and to share it; the people in all our communities who live with disabilities and barriers could really use our help.

Failing Should Be Taught More …

Paul Wagenaar

Learning to fail seems counterintuitive to everything our success culture seems to value. I believe people who say they never fail likely aren’t trying enough new ideas or ways of doing things. Failure isn’t the end, I believe it is simply an additional step on becoming successful. What is important, is learning how to fail so that failure doesn’t discourage you and lead to giving up.

The best choice is the right one; the next best is the wrong one.

Paul Wagenaar

Decision paralysis is something all of us have or will face … making decisions is hard. What if you don’t make the right choice? What if you only have one shot it? Will my decision change my life forever? All good questions and you are going to make good decisions and bad decisions … its part of life and know that whatever happens you will learn and get better.

Changing a life, yours, your child’s, your student’s, or a life for one of your friends.

Paul Wagenaar

Equity doesn’t always seem to exist in our school systems. Some students thrive, some struggle just to survive. Some are highly visible and others seem to shrink and because invisible. Today’s post is a very brief series of suggestions and thoughts to help more of us to become visible, to feel supported, to become engaged and encouraged to welcome being noticed and to build the lives you want for yourselves.

What is accessibility? Are we compliant or complicit – Accessibility in 2025?

Paul Wagenaar

We notice the ramps, the braille on some washroom signs, we all sometimes use the power door options when we have large items to get through doors, but do we notice the places that aren’t accessible?

More than 20 years legislation became law that guaranteed accessibility standards for people who live with barriers and disabilities. The law promised action. It has been hit or miss, there have been some improvements, but not enough. We need to ask ourselves are we compliant or are we complicit? We also need to advocate and take action.